The Most Beautiful Things In Life Are Not Visible Or Tangible, But Are Felt

The most beautiful things in life are not visible or tangible, but can only be felt. A touch, a hug, the magic of a look, and a  “how are you today?” are all part of the formula for true happiness, which is nothing more than the sum of all these things invisible to the eye. When they come together, they plant flowers in the gardens of our souls.

However, experts in the subject of emotion and behavioral psychology tell us that  we often lose our natural capacity to experience the simplest, most basic form of happiness. Humans are actually the only living beings capable of overestimating their suffering through distorted or poisonous thoughts.

“Things are connected by invisible bonds: you cannot pick a flower without disturbing a star.”
-Galileo Galilei-

True happiness is therefore invisible. It cannot be touched or seen, but it can be felt, because it is the energy that comes from the positive connections with the things that have meaning to us. The most beautiful things in life are indeed present, all around us, but they cannot be possessed or manipulated. They deserve to be respected as saints.

For love does not dominate and cannot be submitted. Love should be created and renewed every day, just like true friendship, the affection for a child or the love for a pet. What we give and what we receive cannot be touched; it is the whisper of our emotions.

The beautiful things we don’t always see

Wonderful things have always been there, all around us. We cannot see them, however, because  we usually look through a large, blurry filter activated by routine, automatic or reflective thoughts,  mechanical movements, and our limited intuition, which seems to be completely disconnected from our emotions.

Rick Hanson is a California neuropsychologist, known for his books such as  Hardwiring Happiness  and  Buddha’s Brain. In his books, he reveals that  the brain does not know how to be happy, but rather it is guided by rewards.

We are great reward seekers from birth and throughout childhood, but the rewards we hunt for are so essential and pure that we forget the innate joy they gave us as we get older.

Only children can truly enjoy the present, the here and the now. Dreaming is enough for them to feel satisfied. A walk, a game, a discovery, a hug, an  “I’m proud of you” is the best kind of gift to a child. They appreciate these invisible sacrifices that nourish their hearts.

As we grow, our quest for reward becomes more complex. We will only be happy if we have a good job or a partner, or if others recognize our worth. The mind loses its innocence and this is how we get sucked into the rut, our insecurities, frustrations etc.

Hanson emphasizes the need to connect with happiness.  This can only be achieved by reprogramming the brain, taking advantage of its neuroplasticity. You have to adjust your thoughts and behavior and feel new emotions to shape your reality. Because these beautiful things are still there, invisible and intangible. You just have to know how to feel them.

Search within yourself to find these invisible things

To understand ourselves a little better as a species, it’s always interesting to look at neuropsychology. The brain evolves based on negative experiences, because this is how it can learn enough to survive, because  our ancestors faced very difficult situations.

This can help us understand that  we are programmed to focus on the negative aspects of our lives. But it’s time to look beyond this. If we have been able to survive adversity as a species, now is the time to take steps forward and learn how to be happy. For the next evolutionary step is consciousness. 

Let’s develop a more intuitive awareness of our emotions, reciprocity, respect and empathy. Let’s learn to be more aware of the beautiful things around us so that we can grow with them and encourage them. We should allow ourselves to be happier, as we have already learned to be strong.

Steps to develop awareness and open your eyes to what’s inside

We have become experts in the art of worrying, seeing the negative side, and questioning our own abilities. Somehow we focus so much on this abyss of negativity that resides within us that we go through the day with our eyes closed. We are blind both inside and out, clumsily roaming about in search of happiness.

• It’s time to light within yourself to do and thoughts such as  “may”, “this is not for me”  and  “I’m afraid ..”  the badger to do.
• Only when you are free from your own inner prison will you rise as the brave being that you are and will you finally look out without fear, burdens or filters of negativity.
• Stick to the here and now and look for daily rewards like children do: the taste of new food, the pleasure of making a new friend, a walk, a laugh, making eye contact with someone.
• Marvel at the little things you see around you, because when you add them all up, they make up the whole universe.

Reduce your speed and enjoy these things, because this is where you can find true happiness, in these tiny, invisible, basic things. And remember, above all, that happiness is not found in a windfall; it is fostered by the little things that happen every day that we often ignore.