You Can Lose And Still Be A Winner

You were born to be a winner! You were born to succeed! That’s what we’re all taught when we grow up. Since childhood, we have been taught that losing is a negative thing. That’s why we feel bad every time we lose.

It’s also easy to associate failure with being less important. After all, when we lose, we feel like we’re missing something. We even associate failure with emotions such as sadness, shame or anger. In our mind it always has a negative connotation. So what’s good about losing?

If we only see the bad side of losing, then obviously it will be difficult to get anything good out of it. It may sound strange. Yet the word “lose” is always accompanied by the exact opposite: “win.” However, every time we lose, we actually become a winner at something else. We will now delve deeper into this.

Yin and yang: to be a winner you have to lose

You have probably seen the symbol of yin and yang many times. It has a very interesting charge. The theory of yin and yang is a fundamental element of Taoism. It refers to the duality that is a feature of everything that exists in the universe.

This philosophy holds that nothing is completely pure and permanent. That is because everything exists as part of a duality. We give an example. We can say that summer is the opposite of winter. However, one cannot exist without the other. Sometimes there is a cold day during the summer and a warm day during the winter. Both seasons exist together.

With this we also realize that nothing is totally good or totally bad. This means we learn something about ourselves when we lose. We learn that we have to change if we want to be successful next time. So even in failure there is a duality.

What do we get when we lose?

If you stop and think about why you can’t always be a winner, you will learn something very valuable. Losing leads to change and transformation. So from this point of view, losing turns into winning. And what do we get out of this? Knowledge.

As a result, we will no longer handle similar situations in the same way as before. And we will also be more skilled when it is necessary to have flexible thoughts. In addition, we will adopt new strategies that will bring us closer to our goal.

However, this does not mean that we do not have to worry about winning or losing. On the contrary, we should strive to get back up and move on, even if we lose. So try to turn the situation around. See it as an opportunity to evaluate what happened. That way you can come up with other strategies.

Enjoy the journey and become a winner

We’ve probably all heard that having fun is more important than winning. Yet we have not internalized this idea. So when we lose, we feel terrible.

We are all influenced by what we have learned about losing. We always view it as something we don’t want to experience. However, the best we can do is to actively decide to change our view of losing. It’s not impossible. It’s all about discovering what each experience, good or bad, has taught us.

Why do we have to lose to become winners?

We have to accept that losing is part of life. It is necessary to some extent to win in the future. If we do this, we will look at losses in a very different way. When you do this, you will begin to gain something productive from your losses.

Sometimes we have to lose to win. Once you overcome that sense of anger that comes with losing, your mind opens up a space where you can question your actions. This will make you look at things in a different way and have a broader perspective.

Free yourself from the impulse to defend yourself out of shame and anger after a loss. This will open the doors to personal growth.