Start A Relationship With Real Conversations

When we start a new relationship, we often get ahead of ourselves and create all kinds of illusions about ourselves and that other person. These are the early stages of the relationship and in these stages we want to put our best foot forward in every way.

This illusion makes us put in more effort to improve ourselves. We want that other person to like us! We are kinder and show a gentler side of ourselves… When we fall in love, we become filled with happiness inside and even find it difficult to get angry.

The tricks of love

The flirtation phase, courtship, falling in love and finally choosing a partner overwhelm us a bit. When we fall in love, we are ourselves and at the same time we are not ourselves.

When we like someone, we have to hide our shortcomings, our differences… and we all do this, both consciously and unconsciously. We present ourselves to this other person as his or her “ideal” partner.

However, when this phase is over, we often hear things like, “Well, you weren’t like that at all in the beginning!”, “You never told me you don’t like that!”, “But when we just met …”

So why not turn things around a bit? We can still laugh, flirt and put on our best smile, but at the same time throw up questions that will affect our relationship going forward.

A questionnaire with love!

Anything can be part of the conversation, even in the early stages of love. It all depends on the sensitivity and the intelligence with which you bring it up in the conversation.

We want to learn more about that person we are attracted to and that person should also want to know who we are.

So why can’t we keep our heads in the clouds, feel butterflies in our stomach and at the same time show our true nature and indicate what we are looking for in our present and what we want for our relationship in the future?

To help you with this, in this article we share a questionnaire (with love!), so that you can somehow work a few questions into the conversation that can help you get a clearer picture of the person who is so especially for you and with whom you would like to build a long-term relationship.

Wedding

Some people have a hard time imagining a relationship that doesn’t end in marriage. For other people, however, marriage has no meaning at all and may even create a feeling of disgust in them. What if your partner does not want to get married and it is the most important goal in your life for you? Or vice versa?

Knowing how that other person feels about marriage can be important for your future.

Children

Deciding whether or not to have children is a very important decision in life. No one should have to give up this important choice for their partner.

In fact, many relationships and marriages break down because of this issue. So why not bring this topic up at the beginning of your relationship, to prevent the whole situation from spiraling out of control?

Religion

Religion unites or does just the opposite. Religion determines the way people behave in their lives. Could you go through life with a person who has different beliefs than you? In order to do this, you must first ask what someone believes in.

Money

Some people place a great deal of value on money. These people are unable to be happy if they do not have certain material things in their possession, while others, for example, would rather work less so that they have more free time, even if this means that they earn less money.

The question of money certainly also determines one’s personal lifestyle. Do you have the same lifestyle as your partner? Think about this.

Our personality and lifestyle

Everybody is different. Some people are adventurous, others calm, shy or extroverted… We ourselves may prefer to hang out on the couch, while our partner feels like going rafting…

Do you think you are compatible in a relationship? It’s just a matter of finding out.

Love is a tricky thing, but like anything in life, talking can help you understand each other. You yourself are the one who needs to know what is and isn’t important to you in a relationship. Therefore, talk to your partner and make a decision within yourself.